The
Top 10 Tips for Great Sex
Without
going into too much detail, let me just say that these tips are tested
and proven. Create incredible intimacy, passion and pleasure.
1.
Affirm that you are in a committed relationship. Anybody can have
sex. To have great sex, there needs to be an understanding that
the relationship is monogamous, strong and in good health. In order
to attain the type of intimacy that great sex requires, trust and
security are essential.
2.
Communicate your likes and dislikes in a loving and considerate
manner. Understand that personal enjoyment is key to healthy sex.
Each partner wants to know that they are pleasing the other. In
order to keep this level of healthy enjoyment, you must communicate
how much you like or dislike a particular action or activity.
3.
Stay physically fit. The studies are in! People who workout on a
regular basis have better sex. Exercise increases flexibility, stamina
and strength, all of which contribute to vital, sustained pleasure.
4.
Make the extra effort to do the little things which remind your
partner that they're special. Does your partner like you to dress
a particular way or in a particular color? What does it hurt to
give them what they want? Just make sure that the generosity is
reciprocated. Often women will give and give hoping to someday get
the same consideration in return. When they don't, they withdraw
from their partner in resentment. Ask for what you want and make
sure that there is a mutual exchange of generous behavior.
5.
Don't be ashamed or embarrassed. This is it. No matter what your
history, take responsibility for what you like and enjoy and don't
be embarrassed. If you are openly communicating with your partner
in a committed relationship, the shame will go away. If you are
concerned about how your partner may react to a fantasy you have,
first discuss how your partner feels about fantasies in general.
You can introduce things slowly, as you feel safe.
6.
Come into the relationship as equals and maintain that healthy status.
If you don't have equality in the relationship, it will not work.
This doesn't mean that you can't play dominance-submission roles
under certain conditions, but those conditions must have a line
of demarcation that is understood by both partners. Without mutual
respect and equality, the selves in the relationship cannot be affirmed
and the relationship will corrode.
7.
Practice good grooming. Do this anyway, but especially in consideration
of your intimate partner.
8.
Completely receive your partner. Allow them to give to you. This
is harder for most people than first reading would indicate. Many
people can happily give to their partner, but have a hard time allowing
someone to give to them. Learn to receive the pleasure being offered
to you.
9.
Enjoy yourself. Sexual intimacy should be one of the greatest pleasures
of being human. Understand that it is meant to be enjoyed and then
enjoy it! No one wants to be with a partner who is merely going
through the motions. Enjoy it, or don't do it.
10.
Talk about it afterwards. In as much detail as you can manage, talk
about what you did. Discuss what you liked, why you liked it and
how you can recreate it or improve it. You are in this together;
discuss what worked and what didn't, but focus on what worked.
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Virginia
Walz is a Life Coach specializing in Personal Empowerment, Extreme
Self-Care and Creating Incredible Relationships. She conducts individual
consultations, teleclasses, discussions and workshops. She is currently
working on her first book detailing the power of rational self-interest.
Virginia can be visited on the web at http://www.empoweredforsuccess.com.
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