Ask the Therapist
Dangerous Fiancé
My fiancé recently told me of his thoughts about murdering someone. I always knew he was
fascinated with Serial Killer movies and so on.. but I thought it was strictly because he found it odd that someone could carry out an act like that. Meanwhile he was actually watching it because in a sense he was getting ideas from them.
He was a hyperactive child and was on Ritalin. And recently was diagnosed with depression so severe it has led to psychotic
delusions. He tells me he hears voice. A man telling him bad things to do.. and a woman whispering warnings. He said he doesn't really understand what they are saying though. Sometimes he hears screaming.
I was concerned because he told me that a few years ago he was thinking about murder a lot. So he actually went driving around trying to pick someone up. Luckily no one went with him.
We have two small children and I know that it is very unhealthy for them to grow up around someone that is mentally unstable. I know he would never hurt any of us. But all the same I know that he definitely is in need of help. He is on the maximum dose of
Prozac but it hasn't helped him for the most part. And he quit taking the meds they gave him for the
delusions because he said they made him feel like a zombie. My question is.. does he need to be hospitalized? As his
fiancé how do I help him to take care of himself? Thank you. Please email me the response as I am not sure I will be able to find this webpage again.
There is no way for you to know that your fiancé will not hurt you or your kids. If you believe that you are safe, then you are kidding yourself.
Secondly, yes, he does need to be hospitalized. He is clearly a danger to himself and others.
You are living with a man who went out looking to enact a thrill kill and you're writing to a website to find out how to help? Get a clue, call the cops, have him admitted, and do it now before something terrible happens.
