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Explaining BPD to my Husband

I am happily married and have only recently found out that I have Borderline
Personality disorder. Whilst this explains my constant fits of rage, self
injury, threats of suicide and more, how do I explain BPD to my husband -
particularly the self injury? He is very supportive but thinks that when I
harm or threaten to harm myself, I am trying to kill myself. 

I have tried to explain to him that I hurt myself because I am hurting
inside but he doesn't seem to be able to grasp it. 

It is very important that he educate himself to your disorder. Have him
read, "I Hate You, Don't Leave Me : Understanding the Borderline Personality", "Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder", "Trapped in the Mirror", and Sometimes I Act Crazy : Living with Borderline Personality Disorder

You don't need to try to explain something that others can do for you. 

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